Rise Above Your Jealousy
Confidently deal with jealousy and thrive in your relationships and your life.
Do you find yourself feeling angry or anxious in situations when you "should" be happy or, at the very least, not losing your mind?
I understand. I've been there too.
I used to struggle with jealousy. I still do sometimes.
Whether you are non-monogamous or not, get clear on what to do about your jealousy. Feel at peace in your relationship(s) and life again.
In 6 weeks, you will
Understand your jealousy. Why do you get jealous? How can we use that information to rise above it?
What's the difference between jealousy and envy?
When jealousy hits us, how we can handle it the moment it strikes using mindfulness tools?
How can we change our core beliefs to diminish what's fueling these emotions?
How can we employ the help of partner(s) to lessen jealousy by setting boundaries and communicating?
How can we cultivate compersion (joy for our partner's joy) over time?
"Sarah!! I think I’m experiencing compersion for the first time!! I kind of can’t believe it lol thank you so much. I’m still only about halfway through the course but it has been so unbelievably helpful already. I could actually cry right now. And I know it doesn’t mean I won’t ever feel jealous again but holy wow! I never imagined I would ever get here. Thank you so much for the work you’re doing. I am so grateful" - Tajah
Why you're here
Before we begin...
How to use this course
Be here
Start your meditation practice
Story time! The first time my jealousy got real
Story time! The first time my jealousy got real part two
Who am I? A little intro from your host
Course agenda
Course agenda - written out
Recommended Pacing
The benefit to understanding your jealousy
Story time! My jealousy at a party
What your jealousy isn't: Jealousy misconception #1
What your jealousy isn't: Jealousy misconception #2
What your jealousy isn't: Jealousy misconception #3
What your jealousy isn't: Jealousy misconception #4
What your jealousy isn't: Jealousy misconception #5
What is jealousy?
Envy vs. jealousy
Story time! Envy v. jealousy story (lake date)
Why do we feel jealous, anyway?
Biological reasons for jealousy
Attachment theory: The strange situation experiment
A secure base
The dependency paradox
Story time! He wouldn't hold her hand
An experiment: The power of a loving hand
Why people we love make us BONKERS
Further resources on attachment theory
Story time! Intro to cultural reasons for jealousy
Paternal certainty
Love stories
Further resources on cultural influences on jealousy
The main cause of your jealousy
Back to the party story, incorporating what we've learned
Assignment! Your secure base
What did you learn?
Intro to handling jealousy on your own
Story time! On a "double date"
Meditate on jealousy
Why we did the meditation
What is mindfulness?
Respond don't react
What emotions are and why that matters
Awareness
Equanimity and meta emotions: This is important!
Decide what to do with your emotions
What one of the most wise people I've encountered says about dealing with uncomfortable emotions
Why you shouldn't bury your feelings
Assignment! What might you be getting out of your jealousy?
What I get out of my jealousy
What did you learn?
Intro to managing jealousy on your own
Investigate your jealousy
Story time! Wendy investigates her jealousy
Story time! Jacqueline investigates her jealousy
How investigating your jealousy can help you thrive
Long-term solo strategies to help ease the power of jealousy part one
My easy yoga routine
Long-term solo strategies to help ease the power of jealousy part two
Long-term solo strategies to help ease the power of jealousy part three
Jealous? Why not just "Don't ask. Don't tell?"
Intro to changing your core beliefs
Core belief to change #1
New belief #1
Core belief to change #2
Story time! Jason struggles with core belief #2
New belief #2
Old and new core beliefs #3
Core belief to change #4
New core belief #4
Conclusion: rewrite the script
Further resources on changing your core beliefs
Assignment! Core beliefs practice
What did you learn?
Intro to handling jealousy with your partner(s)
Intro to NVC
It's not about being right
The default way to handle conflict
Story time! Jealousy at a concert
Observations
Observation ✅ or evaluation ❌?
Feelings
Quiz! But is that really a feeling?
Needs
Feelings and needs inventory PDF
Quiz! Identifying needs.
Requests
Quiz! Make a request.
Direct communication
A few more tips on communication
What if they say no?
Further resources
Assignment! Your turn to NVC.
What did you learn?
Office hours
Intro to boundaries
Motivations for setting boundaries in CNM relationships
What are boundaries, anyway?
Boundary examples
Rachael on jealousy-related boundaries
Thoughts on Rachael's comments on jealousy
Boundaries vs. rules
Jonah Hill example
Relationship between feelings, needs, boundaries and agreements
Story time! Shai on his relationship agreements
Exercise! How to figure out your boundaries
How to figure out your boundaries: punchline
How do you feel and what are your priorities
Real v. ideal self: important!
Story time! My van trip
Van trip: What I could have done differently
Van trip and core beliefs
Story time! Justin on needs vs. wants
Enforcing boundaries step one
Enforcing boundaries step two
Revisit your boundaries
A month of rigid boundaries
Further resources on setting boundaries
What did you learn?
Limited spots available. Join the waitlist to hear about it first.
Only from a place of safety, can you feel the joy and freedom non-monogamy can bring.
Stuff people ask
Including assignments, it should take 6-8 hours total of your time. I recommend doing the course over 5-6 weeks. However, you can do it on your own pace!
This is focused on non-monogamous relationships but I believe any person who struggles in some way with jealousy can get enormous value from the course.
As of August 2024. Yes, as the course is still relatively new, I would love to get feedback from you and answer your questions as needed.
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